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The Advice I wish I would have Listen To

I can’t believe it’s already been a year. My little man is officially a year old a time has just flown by! This past weekend we had his first birthday party and I can’t wait to share it with you. But now that it’s been a year, I find myself reminiscing a lot. Thinking back to those first few months, and I’m still not totally sure how we survived. I’m so thankful for our support system. It’s the whole reason we moved back to Glendora, and although it was a little bit of a rough transition, it has been so good for our family. While reminiscing and going through items for his party, I thought back to my baby shower and all the advice I received while pregnant. In those first few months, it was just about surviving. But now, I look back and realize how much I should have listened to.

The Advice I wish I’d Listened To

It goes by so Fast, Cherish It

This is probably the number one advice I hated the most. But I wish I would have listened. It really does go by extraordinarily fast. Sure, those first 6 months felt like a crawl, partly because of the lack of sleep and being constantly hungry because I had no time to eat. But looking back it was such a short amount of time.

Don’t Google

Thankfully, my OB told me this while pregnant and to only look at the medical sites if I did use Google. But I didn’t listen. When we had our first bout of a yeast diaper rash, I Googled and started freaking out about if the antibiotics had hurt him or weakened his immune system. Thankfully, it was just thrush. After that I decided to stop Googling, for every little thing. Don’t start, you’ll thank me.

He Will Sleep

Boy, do I wish I would have listened. I was so focused on getting him to sleep, by himself, in his own crib. I don’t know how many hours I spent Googling and reading articles (see 2). Obsessing over why he wasn’t sleeping. Why would he only sleep 30 minutes in his crib? Why wouldn’t he fall asleep without rocking and bottles and six songs. But he just needed time. He’s definitely the kid that will do it when he wants. When it came down to it,  he ended up figuring out the whole sleep thing in his own time.

Let Him Cry

I had a three-week-old baby when John’s grandparents came to visit. I distinctly remember his grandma asking me why the baby wasn’t sleeping and why we kept holding him. My answer of course, “he’ll cry if we don’t”. She told me to let him cry. About how her mom had 8 kids, and the babies just cried. I held back my eye roll, thanked her for her advice, and continued to hold my baby. I fought and fought and fought this advice. I still sometimes fight myself on this as he’s starting to throw those toddler tantrums. It took me to 8 months to finally agree to let him cry. I wish I would have let him cry (within reason) sooner. Sometimes we all just need to voice our opinions and it’s the only way he knows how.

You know what they say, hindsight is 20/20. Do you have advice that you wish you would have listened to?

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