I originally heard of the “push present” from Pinterest. If you don’t know what it is, it’s basically a present you receive at the birth of your child. I don’t really see the big deal with it, but apparently it is quite the controversy. People say that the only push present you should want is your baby. And while yes your baby is the greatest gift, their not necessarily a present. I have visions of those bunny posters you see around Easter that says “I’m a commitment, not a present”. I get that argument, but I still don’t think there’s anything wrong with a push present.
Before I even got pregnant, I told my husband I wanted a push present. I wanted a band that had my child’s birthstones on it. I figured we could get one for each child after they were born and it would be a beautiful keepsake to pass onto our children one day. Also, I could wear the band until that time came. Once I became pregnant I never really talked about it again.
Until the third trimester. I didn’t necessarily have a hard pregnancy, but I was miserable. I realize that millions of women all over the world do this, carry babies without any complaints. But I’m not those women, I’m me. And carrying a child was a huge deal to me, and it was altering my body. Every pregnancy is different, as is every person and their mental tolerance for things. I think I deserve a present for this accomplishment. I carried a baby 9 months. I sacrificed my body and eating what I want and all the other things that go along with being pregnant. When people graduate high school or college they get gifts for their accomplishments. We’ve always been a family that celebrates all accomplishments, like a new job, accomplishments at work, or other milestones. So why shouldn’t 9 months of pregnancy and who can remember how many hours of labor (it was 26..) deserve something too.
Since we were having a boy, I no longer thought that a ring would be a good choice. I didn’t think he would really want it when he was older, so I decided against it. But I still wanted something as a keepsake and a reminder of what our family went through. I have a charm bracelet, and after the birth my husband mentioned that he had been looking for a baby carriage charm and couldn’t find one he liked. I searched and couldn’t really find one either. A baby carriage seemed so obvious though. I thought, what else represented our son. The theme for his room is hot air balloons and travel, so I figured a hot air balloon would be perfect. I found a couple necklaces and charms on Etsy and sent them to my husband. He ended up picking a necklace that had his birthstone and initial on it, and a matching charm for my bracelet. I love it. It’s the perfect thing for me to wear and remind me of my son and it brings me such joy to see it. It’s such an amazing experience and now I have a beautiful, tangible reminder of it too.
My husband also bought me a Fitbit. It’s something we’d been talking about getting for a while. I bought him one for his birthday (which was the week before my due date) and then he bought me one for the birth. We were eventually going to get them anyway, these were just good excuses to splurge a little.
So what do you think? Push present, no push present, do you even care?